Pelamin :: Tips mengenali cinta wanita

Assalammualaikum w.b.t.

Simplenye :) I was thinking to d.i.y. my own pelamin. Since I'm looking for something simple yet beautiful and uniquely creative, hmm...but still considering this. However, I love the idea of paper lantern and paper craft so much!

Wan is away (sailing again) and I was much enjoyed myself at home. Past night we're fought over smoke. Because he was stressed out over one thing, and I'm the one to blame about it!

One of my friend called me last night. And we're talking about loyal and honesty to our partner. I mean, he asked me 'macam mana nak tahu kalau seseorang tu betul-betul jodoh kita?' 

I taught the question is quite subjective. So this is my answer;

'Saya rasa kalau betul-betul dia jodoh kita, kita akan rasa kita sudah bersedia untuk fokus. Maksud saya, kita akan bersedia untuk beri komitmen. Sampai satu tahap perhubungan, kita tak rasa nak cari yang lain.'

'Macam mana nak tahu perempuan tu suka kita? Since I've told her but not directly. Then she said she need time. Maybe saya ni bukannya suka, tapi saya sebenarnya senang dengan dia.'

This is my response to this kind of question;

'Perempuan perlukan kepastian. Certainty. Kalau dia provok awak dengan soalan macam tu pun, awak dah teragak-agak. Maknanya awak sendiri pun tak pasti dengan perasaan awak,'

'Tapi saya dapat rasa, saya memang sukakan dia. Suka dengan senang tu apa bezanya?'

'Kalau suka, cinta, sayang...kita akan berubah bila jumpa dia. A girl is a girl after all. Saya akan take time untuk bersiap, pakaian kemas, pertuturan dan segalanya pun nak cover. Kalau awak senang dengan dia, maknanya you can talk almost about anything to her. Kalau depan orang yang kita suka, mungkin kita akan berfikir-fikir nak cakap pasal apa,'

'Tapi itu namanya tak jujur. Dalam perhubungan perlu kejujuran,'

'Cam ne ek...ok, nak kata tak jujur tu, mungkin betul. Tapi sebab kita suka dia, sayang dia, kita sentiasa nak nampak dan berikan yang terbaik untuk dia. Jadi saya rasa, itu bukannya tak jujur, tapi kita berubah menjadi sesuatu yang lebih baik,' jujur mempunyai maksud yang subjektif bagi aku.

I think he really like this girl. So the next thing we're talking about courage. He said that few of his friends been suggesting crazy idea of not contacting the girls for about 2-3 days (me too). I think it's a great idea. Since before this, he's the one take part of messaging the girl. So, try to slow down for a few days and there might be consequences.

'Selepas beberapa hari awak tak contact, then awak mesej dia. Ada dua kemungkinan ;

*Dia akan terus reply mesej awak. Pertama sekali mungkin dia akan tanya 'awak pergi mana? senyap je...' ataupun dia akan tanya 'awak tak sihat ke?'

Kalau respon macam ni, ada peratusan tinggi dia memang sukakan awak.

*Dia lambat reply mesej. Macam nak tak nak je reply.

Respon macam ni pun ada dua kemungkinan. Dia mungkin terlalu gembira awak mesej dia, sampai dia tak tahu nak reply macam mana kerana terlalu banyak perkara yang mahu diperkatakan. Ataupun dia memang tak sukakan awak. Awak mesej atau tak, sama je.

Perkara lain pulak. Jangan rasa kecil hati kalau selama beberapa hari awak tak mesej, dia pun tak mesej awak. Perempuan ada perasaan malu, jadi dia sangat malu untuk memulakan mesej awak kerana awak yang selalu mesej dulu. Sila maklum. Ataupun dia memang tak suka langsung. Sebab tu dia tak kisah awak contact dia ataupun tak,'

Whateveritis, I asked him to berusaha. I don't want him to cuba. Berusaha is liked you really fight to get her, and you are certain of your feeling towards her. If you cuba, then you are not certain of your feeling, and it looks like if you're not getting her it's not a big deal at all.

Men and women need to talk about their feelings a lot. As long as they're not taking it over than their faith. Then it is okay (n_n).